5 ways to treat yourself when trying to save

This month I have been a bit more spendy than usual, but sometimes in life it’s necessary (although, not that necessary) to have those ‘f*ck it’ slash ‘yolo’ moments.

But like so many people my age, setting long term goals along with trying to get life in order and simply turning my hand at adulating, certain things more-rightly take precedent over buying the latest pair of heels, cult beauty buys and even the occasional date night – no matter how ‘cheap’ it is.

And while I use my blog as an outlet to share places I love visit in and around London, eateries, clubs and pubs I’ve discovered as well the occasional new makeup find, the reality is, I just can’t spend a frivolously as I used to, especially if I’d like to own my house in the near future.

However, every now and then a little treat can’t hurt, and here’s how I like to give myself a lil’ pick me up…

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  1. Call me a Starbucks w*nker but I love me some coffee on the go. Chai Latte, Vanilla Latte, Flat White… don’t get me started – anything but Cafe Nero 😷 and I’m good. I don’t know what it is about a hot coffee in a paper cup to go, but it makes me feel sassy. And if it can pick me up at only £3 a pop – why the hell not. £3 here and there can add up though, so drink aware lol!
  2. Candles are a beautiful thing, and I haven’t bought one in ages, but I am a sucker for a lovely smelling Yankee Candle. Plus, Now that it’s winter and I’ve been reading loads of favourite posts which include a homely scented candles, I’ve reverted back to my faves; Baby Powder and Snowflake  Cookie. The Yankee Candle Jars are quite pricey at £18 but they do last forever. Think of it as a short term investment 😉
  3. Curled up with a chunky magazine in one hand and a warm cup of tea in the other is how I would love to spend any evening of the week, especially, now that it’s getting colder. I have to admit, I’m not one to often buy a magazine, but I do have my faves like Porter and Glamour. They are great inexpensive treats that I often only buy when there’s a freebie, meaning I get two treats for the price of one!
  4. Treating myself at times can be as simple as buying a chocolate🍫😋. Although, it’s very counter productive when I’m trying to lose weight. Nonetheless, I’m sure I’m not the only one who switches up there favourite chocolate snack. At the moment I’m feeling Lindt. What tickles your fancy?
  5. Getting nails done really should be considered as standard self-care 😂. I often go for shellac (£20) which lasts me about a month. It’s affordable and gives me that feel good factor without breaking the bank. Am I the only one who feels like they have their sh*t together when they come out of the salon 💅

Treating yourself doesn’t always have to break the bank, it could be as simple as buying a bouquet of flowers, or a new app, if that’s up your street.

How do you treat yourself? 

23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years

It’s been so, so, soooo long since I last blogged – it’s September already and there’s only 16 weeks until christmas (how crazy is that!)

Although I’ve been away for the majority of August, there has been good reason for it – It was my birthday month and boy did I enjoyyyy… I was insanely spoilt so i’ll be sure to share soon.

But, more recently I’ve been in reflective mood, enjoying the people around me, and the experiences/ lifestyle I’ve been fortunate enough to have, which is why I think actually noting down 23 life lessons – one for every year I’ve been alive – will help me remember what’s actually important in life, and perhaps help younger females out there that come across this post somehow.

23 things I’ve learned in 23 years (in no particular order):

  1. Failure is necessary. I think everyone says this, but no one knows why failure is actually necessary. When I was younger, I was quiet academic, always on the straight and narrow and never really felt any failure or rejection until I finished uni. I searched for nearly a year with many #FAILS in the process but it was so necessary because it made me work harder and really appreciate what I did get.
  2. Scrutiny is necessary. Just like failure, you need to experience scrutiny as well as constrictive criticism to move forward and better yourself.
  3. Learn to live below your means. This point has never been more relevant in my life, especially when things like buying my own house and getting a better car become more of a priority, it’s never been more important to save, even if it’s just a little every month, in order for me invest in things that matter in the grand scheme of things.
  4. Buy experiences, not things. When you work and you can afford to buy things yourself, you soon realise, experiencing things and travelling takes precedent over owning the latest pair of trainers. After all memories last a lifetime.
  5. Avoid trends. As far as I’m concerned trends are a waste of time and money. I have learned to invest in things that I genuinely like.
  6. Not everyone will be there for you. When you go through real tests in your life you realise who’s actually there for you, and who makes time to check up on you. Sometimes it’s a harsh but necessary wake up call on who you need to cut #CutIt
  7. Keep your head up. As a black female, especially over the last year with all the madness happening throughout the world, I’ve learned how important it is to keep my shoulders back and head up, no matter if I’ve got an unusual hairstyle, rocking an au natural face or weird ensemble.
  8. Do what you want. Life is way to short. Don’t worry what other people will think, as long as you’re safe and responsible, live life and do what you want #YOLO (what happened to that yolo)
  9. Speak up! Never shy away from voicing what you actually believe in, no matter how daunting – the feeling of keeping quiet is more disappointing when you look back.
  10. Never accept bad treatment.
  11. Love yourself.
  12. Consistency is key. I think I’ve mentioned this in a previous post before, but being consistent will help you get to where you want to be quicker. Whether it’s in blogging or at the gym – keep at it.
  13. Be a ‘Goal Digger’ – If you been on my insta, I recently posted this quote with a somewhat motivational message. Don’t rely on anyone else to gain success, be a goal digger and get’cho goals!
  14. You are a queen. #MelaninGoddess
  15. Hustle Hard. No one will hand you what you think you deserve, so hustle… HARD!
  16. You can always rely on family. I know this may not be completely true for everyone as every family is different, but I’m sure everyone has at least one person that’s so close they’re practically family whom you can rely on. Having a ride or die is the best.
  17. The world is not fair. Point blank, but what are you doing to make it better?
  18. Look after your relationships. Whether romantic, family or a friendship, look after the relationships that are important to you. Relationships are so fragile and it’s so common that if you get into a romantic relationship, your friendships can take a back seat, but it really doesn’t have to be either or – just be better at time management and care about those close to you.
  19. Parents are always right. A lot of mistakes I’ve made could have all been avoided if only I had listened to my parents. They can be annoying at times, but they are usually right – parent’s intuition and experience is a crazy thing.
  20. Live in the moment. (see no.8)
  21. Keep your circle tight. Not everyone is your friend. There have been so many people that I thought were for me, only to find them bitch about me, take ideas and pass them as their own and everything else, so keep your circle tight.
  22. Keep moving forward. Never become stagnant, no matter how hard life gets, as long as you’re still breathing (Have you seen the Revenant?) you can keep going.
  23. Life’s too short to be unhappy. Stuck in a dead end job? Have a lifelong dream of working for yourself? Want to travel the world? Whatever it is that you think will truly make you happy – do everything in your power to achieve it, even when fear tries to hold you back. You don’t want to look back and regret staying put.

So, there are my pearls of wisdom, hope you enjoyed and make sure to stay tuned for my next post all about my trip to Dubai!

 

My Colourpop Catastrophe + Haul!

This sudden burst of sunshine here in the UK is giving me all types of lyf right now, and when the sun is out and my playlist is poppin’, I love to dress up in maxi dress, put my hair in a bun and make sure my make up is looking fleeky.

Wearing makeup in the sun can be a tricky art to master, which is why I like to keep it tres simple with minimalistic base, a pop of colour on the lip and an optional cat eye depending on how high the pollen count is, so everything on my face is kind of a simplified version of my February Face, except what’s on my lips – I’ve turned to colourful side and been sporting Colourpop Cosmetics!

Since immersing myself into the world of beauty blogging, I’ve heard loads of reviews about Colourpop. I had never heard about it before I began blogging, so I thought I’d see what all the fuss was about. The only knowledge I had about Colourpop is that You Tuber -itsmyrayeraye, worked on a collaboration with them and she always mentioned them in her videos – her lips are great too!

After perusing around their hundreds of lipsticks and eye shadows, I was sold. What was not to love, they have an insanely vast collection of colours and finishes and they are so affordable, it was hard to keep control. I decided to treat myself to a few Kaepop products too, as I just love Karrueche’s style and beautiful makeup looks.

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Colours from left to right: Kaepop Beverly, Kaepop Wilshire, Kaepop Crenshaw & Kaepop Sunset Blvd
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Swatches of each eye shadow. I love that this quad has a mixture of shimmery shadows and more matte bases, which will compliment each other when blended together. Also super pigmented which is always a plus!

I picked out three ultra matte lip products in StingRaye, Bad Habit and Rooch, one Lippie Stix in Lumiere and the Kaepop eyeshadow quad,  but after adding them all to my basket, I found they didn’t ship to the UK 😩.

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Colours from left to right: Lumiere, ad Habit, StingRaye & Rooch

After reading some blogs on how to get Colourpop the the UK, I knew it was possible to get the products out here, so I decided that the easiest way to get my goodies delivered was by courier. Many blogs recommended Borderlinx, so I went with this, but long story short, it was more money than it was worth.

If you’re in the UK, you cannot order straight from the Colourpop website, so what I had to do was order via Borderlinx, suing their Personal Shopper service. It was really simple and all you have to do is get the names of all the items you want and send them across with the price, so they can order it for you, however, they charge 5% of whatever the total of your order. My order came to about £30 which wasn’t bad at all, so I went ahead.

I thought this extra charge was a bit of a cheek, but it was only 5% so what the heck. Ha! how wrong I was. After a few days I received confirmation of my order, which would then be sent to borderlinx and then be sent to me, or so I thought. Once it was at borderlinx, I received another email saying I had to pay for shipping to the UK. Whut?! Little did I know shipping cost near £60!

This is where I became Thrifty McThrift, there was just no way I was spending more on shipping than what the actual products were worth. I decided to leave them there until I found a discount code. Discount codes are actual life savers, I always check for them before I buy full price items lol – I know I cant be the only one, there are just too many deals to be had out there.

After waiting about a month and a half for my products, I finally got them. The packaging was so cute and they also left me a little note, which I felt added a nice personal touch.

As you probably know from reading previous posts I am a sucker for lip products point blank, but I’m also  a sucker for matte lippies, and after many fiasco’s of trying to find the perfect matte formula for me, I think Colourpop have won my love.

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The formulas are insane. They don’t feel papery but rather nourishing and they actually dry 100% matte and don’t budge once applied. However, I would say, before applying it is important to prep your lips – exfoliate and moisturise. Once you’ve done this, you’re ready to go.

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I am really happy with my Colourpop order. I’m obsessed with these matte lipsticks and the eyeshadows look really pigmented too so watch out for a makeup look on the blog soon!

I also love that Colourpop team up with bloggers and come up with cool colours that we can experiment with, while also display swatches on their website on different skin tones (every makeup brand needs to be doing this), it really does make shopping easier.

In the future I will order more Colourpop goodies, but I don’t think I will use Borderlinx again, simply because of how much it cost to get just a few items. So if any of you beauty bloggers have ordered Coloupop to the UK using an affordable courier, please let me know!!!

I hope you enjoyed, and let me know if you’ve tried any Colourpop makeup treats for yourself, my fave lip colour is Rooch so far, it’s my go to matte lip product and I don’t care that it’s now hot, I will rock this all throughout the summer, as it looks banging on my brown skin *cue India Arie*

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Back at it again with this damn filter (wearing Rooch!)

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