23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years

It’s been so, so, soooo long since I last blogged – it’s September already and there’s only 16 weeks until christmas (how crazy is that!)

Although I’ve been away for the majority of August, there has been good reason for it – It was my birthday month and boy did I enjoyyyy… I was insanely spoilt so i’ll be sure to share soon.

But, more recently I’ve been in reflective mood, enjoying the people around me, and the experiences/ lifestyle I’ve been fortunate enough to have, which is why I think actually noting down 23 life lessons – one for every year I’ve been alive – will help me remember what’s actually important in life, and perhaps help younger females out there that come across this post somehow.

23 things I’ve learned in 23 years (in no particular order):

  1. Failure is necessary. I think everyone says this, but no one knows why failure is actually necessary. When I was younger, I was quiet academic, always on the straight and narrow and never really felt any failure or rejection until I finished uni. I searched for nearly a year with many #FAILS in the process but it was so necessary because it made me work harder and really appreciate what I did get.
  2. Scrutiny is necessary. Just like failure, you need to experience scrutiny as well as constrictive criticism to move forward and better yourself.
  3. Learn to live below your means. This point has never been more relevant in my life, especially when things like buying my own house and getting a better car become more of a priority, it’s never been more important to save, even if it’s just a little every month, in order for me invest in things that matter in the grand scheme of things.
  4. Buy experiences, not things. When you work and you can afford to buy things yourself, you soon realise, experiencing things and travelling takes precedent over owning the latest pair of trainers. After all memories last a lifetime.
  5. Avoid trends. As far as I’m concerned trends are a waste of time and money. I have learned to invest in things that I genuinely like.
  6. Not everyone will be there for you. When you go through real tests in your life you realise who’s actually there for you, and who makes time to check up on you. Sometimes it’s a harsh but necessary wake up call on who you need to cut #CutIt
  7. Keep your head up. As a black female, especially over the last year with all the madness happening throughout the world, I’ve learned how important it is to keep my shoulders back and head up, no matter if I’ve got an unusual hairstyle, rocking an au natural face or weird ensemble.
  8. Do what you want. Life is way to short. Don’t worry what other people will think, as long as you’re safe and responsible, live life and do what you want #YOLO (what happened to that yolo)
  9. Speak up! Never shy away from voicing what you actually believe in, no matter how daunting – the feeling of keeping quiet is more disappointing when you look back.
  10. Never accept bad treatment.
  11. Love yourself.
  12. Consistency is key. I think I’ve mentioned this in a previous post before, but being consistent will help you get to where you want to be quicker. Whether it’s in blogging or at the gym – keep at it.
  13. Be a ‘Goal Digger’ – If you been on my insta, I recently posted this quote with a somewhat motivational message. Don’t rely on anyone else to gain success, be a goal digger and get’cho goals!
  14. You are a queen. #MelaninGoddess
  15. Hustle Hard. No one will hand you what you think you deserve, so hustle… HARD!
  16. You can always rely on family. I know this may not be completely true for everyone as every family is different, but I’m sure everyone has at least one person that’s so close they’re practically family whom you can rely on. Having a ride or die is the best.
  17. The world is not fair. Point blank, but what are you doing to make it better?
  18. Look after your relationships. Whether romantic, family or a friendship, look after the relationships that are important to you. Relationships are so fragile and it’s so common that if you get into a romantic relationship, your friendships can take a back seat, but it really doesn’t have to be either or – just be better at time management and care about those close to you.
  19. Parents are always right. A lot of mistakes I’ve made could have all been avoided if only I had listened to my parents. They can be annoying at times, but they are usually right – parent’s intuition and experience is a crazy thing.
  20. Live in the moment. (see no.8)
  21. Keep your circle tight. Not everyone is your friend. There have been so many people that I thought were for me, only to find them bitch about me, take ideas and pass them as their own and everything else, so keep your circle tight.
  22. Keep moving forward. Never become stagnant, no matter how hard life gets, as long as you’re still breathing (Have you seen the Revenant?) you can keep going.
  23. Life’s too short to be unhappy. Stuck in a dead end job? Have a lifelong dream of working for yourself? Want to travel the world? Whatever it is that you think will truly make you happy – do everything in your power to achieve it, even when fear tries to hold you back. You don’t want to look back and regret staying put.

So, there are my pearls of wisdom, hope you enjoyed and make sure to stay tuned for my next post all about my trip to Dubai!

 

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Weekly Rundown #1

Hiya lovelies!

So, I’ve been wanting to bring something news related to my blog for longest time now, but, I just didn’t know what to do or how to do it.

After taking to some of my favourite outlets (Stylist’s Emerald Street and Cocos Tea Party) I gained some major inspo and I am proud to now introduce to you – Weekly Rundown – a feature that will be on ze blog every Sunday!

As a blogger with a journo background, I am always reading the news,  finding out the latest whether it’s to do with current affairs, entertainment, music, fashion & beauty or lifestyle, and with this week being so eventful (to say the least) in terms of news, I thought there’s no better time than now to share what I’ve been reading.

Weekly Rundown 1

Homes ‘too expensive’ for Help to Buy ISA scheme

Akala: focus on fear of others insults British people’s intelligence

People React to EU Referendum Results: Worrying Signs

Cats getting brain freeze

Highlighter Challenge

The pound drops due to Brexit

EU referendum: Jeremy Corbyn under pressure amid top team revolt

Kanye West Gets Almost No Reactions From Stars Depicted Naked in “Famous” Video

Fire In The Booth – Waka Flocka

Skepta at Glastonbury

Hope you enjoy and please do share your thoughts on the articles featured or any links you think I might like. 

See you on my next post x

 

 

 

Three Lifestyle Changes for a Happy Life

Positive Vibes. Happy Life.

Recently, I’ve made some changes in my life that make for a happier me. Some are really small, while others are more of a lifestyle change but they all make a whole lot of difference.

What bought about these changes? – You may ask. Well at one point I was always questioning myself, as to what the purpose of my blog is… Am I focusing on the wrong things? Should I post less about beauty? Do I need to quit my day job to feel fulfilled? These thoughts and feeling just spiralled out of control and I found myself  feeling majorly confused, so I decided to make a few changes, before it got any worse.

Now, although I still am finding my feet in terms of what my blog represents, I do have some plans in works, and what helped me to get to this point was 3 specific things which have focused, disciplined and made me feel happier and more rounded, so let me share…

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Exercise: I have always dabbled with numerous diet fads and exercise routines, but, I have finally found something that works for me.  About 2 months ago, I decided to join my local gym. I initially joined to get in some sort of shape for my coming holiday to Thailand, but, since I’ve joined classes and met a few friendly faces, I realised that this will not be a short term thing that I will only commit to until my holiday. Exercising not only helps me to lose weights and get fitter, but helps me release my frustration and takes my mind off things. I can put my headphones on (I’m really liking Spotify’s Rap Workout playlist) and commit an hour to making myself a better person, physically and emotionally… you know, releasing them endorphins and all that! At times I can be an easy quitter, but, exercise has taught me to I need to stay committed to see results –  a bit like blogging.

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Saying Yes & Laughter: I’m a naturally reserved and quiet person. I like to feel things out before I commit to something whole heartedly, which is why I told myself to just say ‘yes’ and go with the flow (within reason of course) – you never know what could happen. This also leads on to why it’s good to laugh. I can easily (almost happily) go a whole day feeling hella moody and not give a damn, but honestly it’s so much effort. And when I thought about it I actually had to ask myself ‘why?’. If any of you are on Snapchat, I would highly, highly recommend following Kevin Hart. He is tha man! He is a motivator and also so funny, and when you feel like being a lazy grumpy bum, just open one of his snaps and see him killing it in the gym at 6am, while being the comedian that he is. I really don’t have a reason to be grumpy. To be successful, discipline is needed and he really does convey that – so get that ass up, go get ’em and laugh!

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#Goals: Everywhere on social media is #Goals this and #Goals that. To be quite frank, I cannot stand looking at people and thinking I need what they have, as I don’t know what they did to get it and what they are going through while they enjoy small perks that they choose to show, however, I love making goals for myself, based on what I want out of life. This is healthy. Every week, whether it’s a mental note or a full blown plan in my diary, I set myself goals and affirmations – which help me gather my thoughts, become more organised and actually make me more motivated to get the things that will make me happy.

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So there you have it. Three things that I have changed in my lifestyle which have made me happier. Small changes and decisions can make huge difference. What are you willing to do to ensure your happiness?

 

Impending Doom

 

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I’m one of those people who experience the horrible feeling of impending doom every Sunday evening.

It’s not something I thought I’d ever experience, and I don’t think that’s down to naivety, it’s just that I always believed if I didn’t like my job, I’d just leave and find something I enjoy doing. Sadly – I have bills to pay!

It’s not that I hate my job, but I feel like I’m trapped. Having to do something, not necessarily because I’m passionate about it, but because I have adult responsibilities and that’s one of the reasons why I started my own blog. I can’t live for my 9-5.

So, if you’ve ever felt like me, here are some tips that I use to clear my headspace and take one working day at a time.

Talk to someone new
Im the type of person who is comfortable and content with my own company. So, I have to consciously make an effort to talk to people, or I could go through my day happily without any social interaction. However, I’m the first to admit, segregating yourself when you’re feeling trapped at work is the worst thing you can do. Talking to someone new and making friends can help you enjoy your working environment more, even if you don’t like your job.

Go out for lunch
Taking time away from your desk or immediate work environment is a great thing. Getting some fresh air, some hot food and a good coffee, gives you time to clear your head, focus on something other than work and splits up the working day.

Create a role you like doing
This can be a challenging and daunting task, especially if you haven’t got support from peers at work, but, if you don’t like certain aspects of your job, change them. Suggest new ideas to your manager, talk about things you’re passionate about and try to incorporate them into your work.

Work hard, play harder
There’s nothing worse then going to work, coming home and repeat 5 days a week. If you’ve got a group of friends at work, try and go out once a week after work, or Payday drinks. You spend so much time at work, so it’s worthwhile making it a place you enjoy going or at least a place where you know you can have a good laugh with people you like.

Be Proactive
Life doesn’t start and end with your job. Know’s the time to do something you’ve been telling yourself you’ll start tomorrow! Change your situation proactively 🙂

I hope this post has helped someone, do you have any tips?

Really Kanye?

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Over 11 hours ago Mr. West took to Twitter in a bid to get Mark Zuckerberg’s attention to fund him with 1 Billion dollars! – yes, one billion dollars, in order to help fund his creative juices in which will ‘make the world a better place’.

When it comes to Kanye, you either love him or love to hate him, and personally I haven’t really decided what group I’m in. When I first read his series of tweets I couldn’t help but laugh. He’s definitely got some nerve.

If you haven’t seen his tweets or heard about his latest tirade on social media, Kanye claims to be in 53 million dollars of personal debt and is calling for Zuckerberg’s help to change the world.

Kanye has decided that he IS Mark’s favourite rapper and that it his duty to help him ‘breathe’.

Now, my first issue is that with all Kanye’s influence and money it feels that he’s blaming everyone else for the result of his debt. His creativity seems to be to big for the world.

He tweets ‘one of the coolest things you could do is help me in my time of need’ really?! #firstworldproblems ayy.

In my opinion if you are a certain calibre like Kanye and live a certain life, what can you not achieve?

I feel Kanye needs to re-evaluate what he spends his money on in order to achieve his goals, like the rest of us.

He even goes on to give Zuckerberg a time frame in which he would like a phone call – I mean, c’mon Kanye!

Although I was flabberghasted, I do love how spunky Kanye is. I live by the rule: If you don’t ask, you don’t get, and obvious Kanye has no qualms with asking his peers for help.

Claiming to have retaken the throne of rap, on thing he is, is passionate… ‘Bars are worth more than money because it’s something the people can use everyday to feel inspired.’ I love Hip Hop and even I have to agree with this.

What are your thoughts on Kanye’s Twitter rant?