5 Reasons Why I HATE Twitter Chats

After reaching my one year milestone on this blog a couple of weeks ago, I stupidly promised myself to join at least 2 twitter chats a week.

Let’s just all laugh together 😂

My advances to become a somewhat ‘better blogger’ wasn’t actually unachievable, but I’ve come to the realisation that I actually hate twitter chats (well, most of them anyway).

When I first started blogging Twitter chats were the bomb.com!

I would e-meet other bloggers, interact and find new blogs, as well as discover blogging events which definitely helped me network and ultimately turn my blog into what it is today, BUT, after being back on the twitter chats for just over a week, I’ve realised that my goal to join 2 twitter chats a week may have been a bit of a reach.

Let me tell you why…

  1. No shade, but there’s only so many times a year, never mind a week, where I can discuss my favourite disney movie. I get it, we all love disney and it’s a great past-time to re-live our awesome 90’s childhood, but I’m a grown ass 20 something year old woman who’s got shit going on. Let’s get real.
  2. The choice of topics is an issue. Blogging is so diverse – from the people to the subjects. I mean people blog about any and everything, so why do we always end up discussing the same topics and throwing around the same answers and buzz words? It’s like we know what others want to hear, what makes us sound good and what sounds a the right level of controversial. Let’s get real.
  3. I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t been an active part of the twitter chat community for ages, but is it me or is everyone besties? Everyone has something witty to say, a sure-fire comeback. I can’t lie, it makes the chats fun and very interactive, but it just makes me wonder is it all real? Are you really as animated as that sassy GIF you just tweeted or are you sitting in bed with a straight face, going back and forth, just like me? Plus, we have the whole follow/unfollow debacle which just grinds my gears. Let’s get real.
  4. Everything moves so bloody quickly. I know, I know. I feel as though my inner-granny is taking over. Even as I type this I’m imagining an older version of myself walking across the TL with my zimmerframe, but I would love if Twitter slowed down, even by a milli-second. Like, I’m sure I’m the only person who answers a question forgetting to use the chat hashtag? 😪
  5. I never have enough time to dedicate a whole blessed hour to a twitter chat.

Don’t get me wrong guys, I do enjoy a few chats and I get that Twitter chats take a lot to run and host every week, but for me a lot of it is cliche, so… I’m revoking my earlier promise and will only be joining chats when I’m genuinely interested in, and not just because I said I would 😝.

We’re probably all as guilty as each other when it comes to these points (or nah), but maybe it’s time for a change?!

What chats do you enjoy joining and why, do you have any pet peeves when it comes to Twitter chats?

 

OOTD: Confidence

Hey ya’ll,

Today I’m switching it up.

After recently retweeting a thread that really struck a chord with me, I’ve been dwelling on whether to write more posts on subjects that affect me.

screen-shot-2017-02-21-at-21-39-42I was so scared of sharing this thread (pictured above) on my twitter timeline. In fact, I toyed back and forth about whether I should retweet for my followers to see. I didn’t want any of my followers who I actively interact with to feel uncomfortable, but at the same time I just couldn’t stay silent. Twitter is my platform to share whatever I like, and although, I didn’t like this post, I could relate with subject matter.

Most of my posts are about what I do on the weekend, the places I travel and what-not which is great because I genuinely enjoy sharing those aspects of my life, but most of the time my head is swirling with a gazillion things that affect me on a daily basis, and one of those ‘things’ is how I choose wear my confidence as a black woman.

And I use the word ‘choose’ because every way in which I am confident is not always accepted in the society I live in.

Being a black woman living in London is something that I treasure and love about myself. In my home, in front of my friends and family I am Rianne without any limitations, however, in society being black acts as anchor that doesn’t allow me to fully be myself without stereotypes and tags being attached to me and everything I do.

Angry, loud, passive aggressive, ratchet instead of their positive alternatives like passionate, confident, intelligent and honest are labels that get thrown around at black women on a daily basis. A few of these words have even been hurled at me and used to put me down which  of course, over the years have had a detrimental affect on my confidence and means I have to always be socially and consciously aware in situations I’m in.

So, here’s a few ways I choose to wear my confidence, when the world tells me I can’t…

Posture
It’s proven that posture has a direct reflection of how you feel and are perceived. Standing with a straight back and head held high makes all the difference to how I feel. For me it’s totally natural for me to recoil into my posture if I’m not feeling great, or if there’s something society deems as not being something I should be proud or confident about. Whenever I catch myself doing this, I remember to readjust my position to show –  I have a purpose and I am meant to be here.

Hair
If you didn’t know I have dreadlocks, take a look at my posts about it here & here. Although this hair journey is becoming a lot more mainstream as a natural, protective hairstyle for black women, it’s not always understood and still very much not an ‘approved’ hairstyle in many workplaces, but I love how I wear my hair as a way to display my heritage and culture. My hair is very versatile, sometimes, I have it in styles, sometimes I have it out, but I love that it can be a conversation starter, where I can educate anyone who wants to know more.

Attitude
Stereotypically black women can be seen as intimidating and unapproachable. Confidence isn’t just about the exterior and how you appear to seem, but it starts from within. At first glance people may have a pre conceived idea about me I’ve been told I have RBF (resting bitch face), but I actively agree in quote: If you have good thoughts (and a positive attitude) they will shine out of your face…

Inner Thoughts
Occasionally, I recite quotes in my head that reaffirm and boost positivity.

Public Speaking
When I refer to this point I don’t necessarily mean in front of a big crowd. Speaking up in certain situations takes courage and therefore confidence, and the older I get I find myself doing this more and more. There are many examples where I feel I have to do this to set the record straight or give the black perspective and to even break stereotypes by someone who is reinforcing them. (the thing about stereotypes is that  they’re not necessarily untrue, but they don’t tell the full story).

One instance where I had to speak out was when someone voiced that they think Blue Ivy is an ugly baby, that she looks nothing like Beyonce and that North West is much prettier. This may seem like a minor issue but to say a child is ugly is quite pathetic tbh, but then again everyone is entitled to their opinion, however, I had to question why they thought this.

When quizzed they simply said her hair wasn’t nice because it was too ‘frizzy’ and because her features resembled Jay Z. This is true but I had to highlight the fact those qualities are qualities of her blackness and for that to be used against her is not cool.

Ultimately, it shows that from a young age, confidence is something that can be snatched away, but it is our job to reclaim it and make the ways in which we are confident a force to be reckoned with.

The subject of confidence is so much bigger than this one blog post, and there are many other ways in which confidence can be radiated.  Although I am talking about my experience as a black woman, I want to know how you wear your confidence, no matter where you’re from or your background?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life Begins with a Bottomless Brunch

Living Hygge is something we’ve all become obsessed with.

Enjoying life’s simple pleasures may take on different forms to different people, but since taking on the responsibilities of being a proper adult, enjoying going out and exploring has become one of life’s pleasures for me. After all, life shouldn’t begin and end with work.

Bottomless brunch has been on my cards for a while, which is why I sought to find the best bottomless brunch in the city… well one of the best according to Time Out.

Villandry ticked all the boxes for me and after looking at the menu £35 a pop seemed like a great deal, especially as this bottomless brunch features never-ending prosecco!

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Sitting right in the middle of Great Portland Street, Villandry stood out in all it’s glory, it was so pretty.

I was greeted by very welcoming staff and sat my pretty table for two waiting for my Mr to arrive.

Considering they seemed to have very strict booking rules, the staff were very understanding as we were about an hour late (the booking supposedly lasts 2 hours, but I think they don’t mind how long you stay depending on how busy it is), but they assured me that time only starts from when the first prosecco is poured – result!

Once bae and I were both seated, we scanned the menu and ordered food pronto – by this point it was about 12:30 and we were both starving.

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I opted for poached eggs and avocado on rye bread he and a Full English!

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My boyfriend is not a big drinker but as he didn’t drive and we both caught the tube into central London, he let loose and had like 5 glasses one after the other –  literally never seen him like that.

The staff were really friendly, and kept topping up our glasses, it was a bit insane, especially as it was so early. The only time I’ve ever had ay alcoholic beverage at that time is on holiday.

About 30 minutes after we had eaten we decided it was time to go. Too much prosecco had been downed and we were actually acting like a couple of fools. Plus, we wanted to have a walk around Oxford Street. To be honest I think they were surprised we were leaving so early.

All in all I would rate Villandry an 8/10. The mood and atmosphere was spot on, the waiter ensured neither of our glasses were even half empty, but I have to say the food let the experience down – as it looked lovely but it was just OK – I would say The Breakfast Club is better quality. I also noticed that a few groups who came in after us, were served before us, which I feel is plain rude.

Nevertheless, if you’re looking for a nice picturesque spot in London to hang and have a good time with the girls this is the place, but if you’re looking to chow down on a nice brunch with prosecco being very much an after-thought, this place isn’t for you.

I would love to try another Bottomless Brunch just to have something to compare Villandry to…Have you been to any nice spots for brunch?

 

Kew Gardens Orchid Lates: Valentine’s Day Done Differently

Happy Valentine’s Day lovies!

Today people around the globe celebrate love *hubba hubba* and as I love, LOVE, I thought I’d share a cool Valentine’s date night idea that you can enjoy tonight with your bae or your gal pals, if your owning single life.

I’ve lived in London all my life and I’m still finding new things to do and places to explore.

Kew Gardens has been on my list of things to since forever, which is why my boyfriend and I visited as a pre-valentines date.

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As of late finding a date-night destination which doesn’t consist of food, drinks and a film has been a complete myth, which is why we opted for a date night with a difference.

Think culture, arts and a botanical garden, and the obvious choice for us was taking a visit down to Kew Gardens latest botanical installation – Orchid Lates.

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We joined Kew after dark for an intimate night viewing of tropical flower displays inspired by the vibrant, colourful plant life of India.

Set in the Princess of Wales conservatory they had pop up food and drink options also inspired by Indian culture as well as a stalls which included Henna and drawing.

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For me this date night was everything and I’m not exactly the most in touch with nature. But, having the chance to stroll around a haven of flowers and plants, my boyfriend and I were left to our own devices, bantering, laughing and enjoying the scenery – it really just took us back to the basics – we talked about everything and nothing, and of course posed with ALL of the flowers.

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So, if you’re still on the hunt for something to do today or any other day throughout this month of lurrv, miss the hustle and bustle of touristy attractions and consider Orchid Lates, it’s on until the 2nd March – trust me you’ll love it.

Enjoy today and let me know what you’re up to today, I’d love to know x 

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One Year On…

Today riannemitchell.com turns one!

And I feel it’s only right to dedicate a whole post to my blogging journey.

Since I was quite young I always wanted to have a successful blog. I’ve always loved writing, and enjoy sharing my experiences, however, it wasn’t until this day last year that I plucked up the courage to actually make this blog a reality.

It’s still surreal to me that people read my blog (like I actually have real like subscribers-eeek). People who tweet me, like my sh*t and follow me on multiple social platforms. Although I’ve hit many milestones, a year on and I’m feeling a mixture of emotions about being a ‘blogger’. There have been ups and down, great events and PR invitations, as well as the chance to become involved in something big, where I’ve been able to make friends and craft real relationships with fellow bloggers as well as companies.

But, I can’t lie, it’s been hard. Hard to balance life, working full time as well as creating content to blog about. Hard to choose what events to attend, because who wants to take Annual Leave for an event that’s totally cool but will have no relevance on my blog and last but not least, majorly hard to keep up with ever-rolling timelines of social media – because who cares about what was tweeted 10 minutes ago.

But, in some of life’s crisis’ there’s always a silver lining and one thing that I read very recently taught me that if I want an interest or hobby of mine to succeed, I need to work at it full time and put in the same amount of time and effort I put in at my 9-5 – which really put things into perspective.

So with that in mind, I’ve listed a few goals that I’d love to achieve and look back in a years time and say check! (and sometimes that means going back to basics)…

Goals

  • To grow my blog presence – I still can’t believe people actually read and comment on my blog, but I wana go global baby! (maybe not global but definitely bigger and better)
  • Post 2 times a week
  • To join at least 2 twitter chats a week – I mean who doesn’t love a good twitter natter
  • To grow a travel & lifestyle blog that people actually go to for date night ideas, travel destinations etc.  – I love finding new destinations from publication like Time Out so why not gain a real review from moi
  • To comment on blogs that I love reading – This is the hardest thing for me as i’m always reading something, so I feel it’s only right to show appreciation if I enjoyed the read.

One year on, and for the first time I’m feeling confident about my vision for this blog, so as I switch things up a bit, I hope you all stick around for the journey.

See you on my next post x

Blogmas: Office Christmas Party Etiquette

Whether you’re rearing up for your office Christmas party, or one of those people who just want to get it done and dusted, because lets face it, who wants to spend more time with colleagues you can’t stand,  there’s no denying that there are rules to follow when attending the office Christmas party.
(many of which I did not follow myself this year smh – just picture me dabbing on the dance floor well after midnight 🚫)

I consider myself someone who’s always up for a party, but there have been many a time when I’ve fully embarrassed myself and woken up with flashbacks and mixed emotions thinking – why the hell would I do that?… so I thought this would be a fun way of letting you all in on polite party etiquette to definitely do and major faux pas to avoid.

So before you head out on your office party or get together before the New Year remember these golden rules…

Do pace yourself – I’m the type of person who always says – I’m only staying for one, just to show my face – then 12am strikes and I’m the life of the party. NO NO NO NO NO! Just because there’s a free tab at the bar, doesn’t mean you have to drink away. So pace yourself, look classy and elegant and have fun! No wants to see you stumble home it’s just not a good look.

Don’t wear anything too daring – Everyone wants to look good and show how different and  glamourous they can look outside of office hours, but it doesn’t mean you have to show Kevin from IT what you’ve had for brekkie, lunch and dinner. Have in mind office party not your besties birthday bash.

Do socialise with other departments. What I love about Office Christmas parties is that it gives you the chance to socialise and interact with other departments. Plus, if you’re new to the team like I am, it’s a great opportunity to make some new friends.

Don’t be afraid to have a good time. It’s is actually OK to have fun, that’s the point of a shindig right?! It’s a great chance to see people out of action, relaxed and at an event where everyone genuinely wants to have fun. So be yourself and let your personality shine!

Don’t get drunk. Leading back to my first point – pace yourself. If your workplace has been clever and  decided to host your Christmas party mid-week, you really have to watch how much you’re consuming, take advantage of the free bar if you have one, but just remember you can’t pull a sickie…because EVERYONE knows that old chestnut lol

Don’t get handsy. We’ve all had a lil’ office crush. But before you decide to pounce at the ‘perfect’ moment, make sure it’s mutual and don’t get too handsy with them either. reporting to the HR office is like sitting on the naughty step, not cool and highly embarrassing.

Do & Don’t Avoid the ‘Big Dawgs’. This is a controversial one. But, I think it depends on your personality. It’s great to know your more senior counterparts, and it could even help your career progression, however, the office Christmas party is not the place to discuss a how Shauna pissed you off today or that you’d appreciate a pay rise lol. Just remember they’ll remember what you say and how you say it well after the nights over.

Hope this put a smile on your face. Do you have any top tips to share on how to survive your workplace Christmas party? Let me know in the comments x

 

 

Advice for my Undergrad Self

Hey guys!

It’s a new week and I’m back with a slightly different post.

With exam results day nearing in the UK for high school and college students, and many of my close friends having graduated- it got me thinking back to when I was going through it all myself.

I wanted do a post about the most important purchases and advice for prospective undergrads. I was inspired by Casper, a company that makes cool memory foam mattresses, and while I have not had to buy a new mattress, I thought this would be a fun post, as well as a great chance to reflect, so here goes…

Top Purchases

From a young age, I was always excited to move out my parents house and start living for myself – sometimes I really have to ask myself why I was so excited to grow up so quickly smh. With this is mind, I decided to pick the furthest university I could and moved to Lincolnshire *yikes*

I was so ecstatic to have a place of my own (more like a room of my own), and dreamt of doing up my room and all that stuff, but when I actually arrived in my dorm, it was reminiscent of a prison cell (bare in mind I’ve never been to prison lol).

Looking back I would get these things for myself;
-Pillows, loads of pillows! They can transform a dreary room into a homely haven in an instant.
– Nice soft bedsheets. As they say there’s nothing more satisfying then going to bed after a hard day at uni in fresh sheets
– A rug. It’s amazing what a nice rug can do for a room
– Posters/Pictures. Banish homesickness with familiarity, seeing friendly faces, despite being miles away always helps.
– Plants! A nice way to breathe life into a small room
– Fairy Lights.
– Plates, cups and mugs. For all those cheap student meals!
– Full length mirror. For all those #OOTD selfies for Instagram

These little things really made a difference to my room, and while it may not seem like a lot, they can make your room feel like a home away from home – especially if you live in dorms! It’s horrible when your housemates destroy the kitchen, but it’s nice to know that you can always escape to a clean room.

Also, once you’ve finished, you can always take these back home with you and save for when you’re ready to move into your very own apartment!

Things I’ve Learned

After spending 3 years studying in Lincoln, I learned a few things…

– It’s OK to be yourself. As much as you may want to fit in with the cool kids in the dorm, authenticity, never goes out of style. You’ll thank yourself  for remaining true to yourself later in life.
– Work hard, party harder. As much as I used to pretend that I was doing the ‘right’ thing and studying my socks off, university is a social playing ground, so play the field, just remember to pass your modules.
– Just go for it! You’re independent.
– Your housemates will get on your nerves but you WILL look back and class your university years as the ‘good old days’
– When graduation day comes, you’ll realise it was ALL worth it

Life Advice

Once you’ve graduated from university, you’d have learnt a lot of things you’ll carry with you forever…

– Experience is everything. After graduation, you’re officially a graduate and you’ll likely be looking for a job. Hopefully throughout university, you’d have completed placements and internships. The more experience you get in education, the more likely you’ll land your ‘dream’ job
– No one will hand you anything. Being proactive is everything. If you’ve got a passion you want to turn into a career, do everything in your power to make it happen yourself.
– Stay on track. Nothing worth having comes easy. It’s all about time and pressure (peep the shawshank reference lol) so keep doing you boo.

Do you have any undergraduate advice for yourself or others?