Blogmas: The Christmas Tag

And the countdown to Christmas continues…

I still don’t have my Christmas tree up, hence why I feel a little bit un-christmassy, however, I am writing this while digging into mince pies and custard 😋

I haven’t been tagged to do this post, but I do love taking part in them, simply to see other peoples answers so, make sure you read to the end to see if you’re tagged…

WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS FILMS?
My family loves to curl up in front of a good film, and during Christmas there’s definitely  no exception. Saying that, I’m not a HUGE fan of Christmassy films as I feel you can only watch them during the festive season. But, I do love Home Alone & Santa Clause I always feel nostalgic when I watch them.

HAVE YOU EVER HAD A WHITE CHRISTMAS?
Not that I can remember. The funny thing is, I would say the most Christmassy Christmas I’ve had was actually when I was in Barbados. Everyone goes all out of decorating their houses and in town they have loads of Christmas events. Very bizarre but so nice.

WHERE DO YOU USUALLY SPEND YOUR HOLIDAY?
My family take it in turns to host Christmas, so it’s usually with my whole family at one of our houses.

WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS SONG?
Santa Claus is Coming To Town – very cheesy, but I remember practicing this song for some sort of primary school play.

DO YOU OPEN ANY PRESENTS ON CHRISTMAS EVE?
Always! It’s a very predictable present –  a set of pyjamas, but it’s somewhat a tradition now.

CAN YOU NAME ALL OF SANTA’S REINDEER?
LOL, I’m sure I could once upon a time but not anymore all I remember is Rudolph, prancer and dancer (I’m not even sure if dancer is one 😭 👀)

WHAT HOLIDAY TRADITIONS ARE YOU LOOKING FOR MOST THIS YEAR?
Other than stuffing my  face with food, and catching up with my fam, I’m looking forward to having a Christmas get-together with my friends of about 11 years. It’s been a tradition since we left secondary school.

IS YOUR CHRISTMAS TREE REAL OR FAKE?
We fake it. But it’s never been something that bothered me. They last a long time and are mess-free.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE HOLIDAY FOOD / SWEET OF ALL TIME?
my sister is the baker in the family and she does loads of sweet treats, but I love her Key-lime pie most of all…also her pecan pie. I’m salivating just thinking about it.

BE HONEST: DO YOU LIKE RECEIVING OR GIVING GIFTS BETTER?
If anyone asked me this question five years ago, I would have said I love receiving gifts – I still do – but I do love searching for quirky memorable gifts for people and watching them open it. Puts a smile on my face.

WHAT IS THE BEST GIFT YOU’VE EVER RECEIVED?
I remember receiving an All Starz doll. I remember adding it to my list just days before Christmas but I didn’t think I had a chance of getting it because i was too late. Come Christmas morning I opened an oddly shaped prezzie and it was it. Literally I just screamed with happiness.

WHAT WOULD BE YOUR DREAM PLACE TO VISIT FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON?
Iceland. It looks like a magical place anyway, but if I went with loved ones, I think it would be an amazing experiencing.

ARE YOU A PRO PRESENT WRAPPER OR A PRO FAILURE?
I learnt from the best. Any shape any size, I can wrap it lol. I have been told off though for using too much cellotape.

WHAT MADE YOU REALISE THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA?
Probably seeing my dad taking a bite out the mince pies I left for Santa lol. I was gutted.

If you want to take part in the tag, I tag you! Leave a link so I can read your answers x

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5 ways to treat yourself when trying to save

This month I have been a bit more spendy than usual, but sometimes in life it’s necessary (although, not that necessary) to have those ‘f*ck it’ slash ‘yolo’ moments.

But like so many people my age, setting long term goals along with trying to get life in order and simply turning my hand at adulating, certain things more-rightly take precedent over buying the latest pair of heels, cult beauty buys and even the occasional date night – no matter how ‘cheap’ it is.

And while I use my blog as an outlet to share places I love visit in and around London, eateries, clubs and pubs I’ve discovered as well the occasional new makeup find, the reality is, I just can’t spend a frivolously as I used to, especially if I’d like to own my house in the near future.

However, every now and then a little treat can’t hurt, and here’s how I like to give myself a lil’ pick me up…

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  1. Call me a Starbucks w*nker but I love me some coffee on the go. Chai Latte, Vanilla Latte, Flat White… don’t get me started – anything but Cafe Nero 😷 and I’m good. I don’t know what it is about a hot coffee in a paper cup to go, but it makes me feel sassy. And if it can pick me up at only £3 a pop – why the hell not. £3 here and there can add up though, so drink aware lol!
  2. Candles are a beautiful thing, and I haven’t bought one in ages, but I am a sucker for a lovely smelling Yankee Candle. Plus, Now that it’s winter and I’ve been reading loads of favourite posts which include a homely scented candles, I’ve reverted back to my faves; Baby Powder and Snowflake  Cookie. The Yankee Candle Jars are quite pricey at £18 but they do last forever. Think of it as a short term investment 😉
  3. Curled up with a chunky magazine in one hand and a warm cup of tea in the other is how I would love to spend any evening of the week, especially, now that it’s getting colder. I have to admit, I’m not one to often buy a magazine, but I do have my faves like Porter and Glamour. They are great inexpensive treats that I often only buy when there’s a freebie, meaning I get two treats for the price of one!
  4. Treating myself at times can be as simple as buying a chocolate🍫😋. Although, it’s very counter productive when I’m trying to lose weight. Nonetheless, I’m sure I’m not the only one who switches up there favourite chocolate snack. At the moment I’m feeling Lindt. What tickles your fancy?
  5. Getting nails done really should be considered as standard self-care 😂. I often go for shellac (£20) which lasts me about a month. It’s affordable and gives me that feel good factor without breaking the bank. Am I the only one who feels like they have their sh*t together when they come out of the salon 💅

Treating yourself doesn’t always have to break the bank, it could be as simple as buying a bouquet of flowers, or a new app, if that’s up your street.

How do you treat yourself? 

Box Park Croydon + MEATLiquor

Who’s got those midweek blues?

I know I do. I had an amazing weekend and I’m looking forward to this one coming. Not that I did anything spectacular, but it was super chilled – I actually had a well overdue lie in on Saturday – and even ventured out to my hometown, Croydon.

Whenever I mention Croydon to people, they’re never really sure what it has to offer, except the very drab, Whitgift centre *yawn*

Very recently though, it is undergoing a facelift and last week opened its very Box Park.

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Now this is a BIG thing, almost revolutionary for drab ole Croydon. If you didn’t know, the only other place in London to have a Box Park is Shoreditch.

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I really didn’t know what to expect and I may be a little biased, but it is 100x better than the original Box Park. There’s way more eateries, cool coffee places, my favourite donut place called DUMDUM’s and a huge seating area for everyone to come and eat drink and chat together – overall it just seems like a great chill spot… and it’s right on my doorstep.

During my visit with my dad and sister, we decided to grab a bite to eat. We wanted to explore somewhere new and came across MEATliquor and as it was brimming with people, it was an immediate yes.

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With a 30 minute waiting time to be seated, we headed to the bar and ordered some cocktails.

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I didn’t know much about the restaurant but I must admit, their cocktails were really good, for just a burger joint. They had a good variety to choose from, but what I didn’t like is that they were all named with a dark twist  – how does Fallen Angelita sound to you 😖 lol #notfeelingit

And after looking around it all made sense. To me the restaurant decor was meant to resemble something between purgatory and a butchers. There were skulls and bones painted on the walls, red spotlights and those plastic hanging flaps to replace doors (have no idea what they’re called). So, if you’re not into this kinda thing, it’s defo not for you (and I don’t blame ya).

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30 minutes seemed to whizz by because before we knew it we were seated and our food was in front of us. Served on a big yet organised platter it was time to chow down!

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As you can see we actually went in with the food and while it wasn’t the most succulent burger, we chose a mixture of what they had to offer.

The mixtures of flavours and foods was a great twist on popular greasy American food with a soul food flavourful spin.

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I went for a bacon cheese burger, hippie chips (sautéed onions and melted cheesy sauce on chips) and Onion rings. We also had another side of chips with blue cheese 😷, deep fried mac and cheese (the treadmill is calling me lol).

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To be honest the food did hit the spot, but I wouldn’t say its the best there is to offer.

It was genuinely a nice day out with the family, but I personally wouldn’t go back to MEATliquor as it’s just not my scene. I will, however, be going back to Box Park this Friday!

Have you tried MEATliquor? What’s your verdict?

Girls Night Out: The Night Jar

Can you tell I’m loving life right now?

I recently started a new job, and the girls in my office decided to welcome me into the team by taking me out on the town – lets call it an initiation – on a Thursday night too, bearing in mind I’m normally in bed by 9 latest, I felt like such a rebel!

They decided on a place called Night Jar on Old Street, which I had heard of before from my boyfriend, but never really thought to explore as it wasn’t somewhere I felt I’d enjoy, as its a jazz bar, but I went with an open mind.

Now, if you like to explore London like me and often venture down to Old Street and Shoreditch sides of London, then you’ve probably passed a little door situated in between an off license and a cafe – otherwise known as the portal to Night Jar.

The door is so inconspicuous, I’ve never noticed it before and to be honest I doubt anyone would.

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However, once I passed through the threshold it was like being transported back into the 1920’s.

As soon as we entered, the smell of the city air was gone, and the warmth from the world below as well as the sweet cocktails welcomed us.

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After getting down the steepest set of stairs and into the basement, we were shown to our seats, by a lovely waitress who reminded me of Kat Von D -she had the most awesome tatts. Planted in the cosiest of corners on old cushioned wooden chairs we were given a cute humorous menu with beautifully and enticing themed drinks ordered according to; pre-prohibition, prohibition, post-war and Night Jar signatures… so plenty of choice!

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I literally had no idea what to pick. I hate strong drinks and often opt for more fruity options. In the end I chose an interesting concoction of:Havana Club 7 Year, Falernum, Fresh Pineapple Cocnut Blossom Nectar, Grilled Rice Powder, Roasted Feijoa, Fresh Lime, Banana Bread Beer, Peanut Butter Ice (yes peanut butter ice!) – otherwise known as LEI LANI VOLCANO.

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What I loved was our waitress was very thorough and informative, after each of our drinks were chosen she made sure it would be something we enjoyed and even went as far to describe how we’d experience the taste, just incase we wanted to change our mind.

We had a direct view of the bar, so it was great seeing the bar staff, making each drink to perfection – even for the other tables – it was so interesting to see how much thought and precision goes into each drink, it truly is an art.

Once our amazing drinks arrived we all got to sipping. They just looked so lush, pictures really don’t do them justice!

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I am such a lightweight that I couldn’t even finish my cocktail, but it tasted amazing and had an interesting nutty after taste which was so unique.

From this moment it was the beginning of the end form me as I was ready to go home lol, but the girls wouldn’t allow it, after all, Thursday is the new Friday right?! So we decided on a sharing cocktail (they said it’s for 4 people, but the portions are very generous so they could have done for about 12!)

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As we all had slightly different tastes, a drink called the Green Dragon, seemed a perfect fit. Served in a giant wooden pineapple, with ginger liqueur, dragon fruit, strawberry wine and much more, we got to drinking again.

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From what I can remember, it had a very oriental taste and was quite fruity, so it was right up my street. With the live band setting up we stayed and enjoyed a few jazzy tunes, got to know one another (my cheeks have never hurt so much from smiling before), but for me that was it for the drinks – I was thinking how the hell am I going to get up for work tomorrow :/

Feeling merry and slightly glazed over, I left a very happy customer.

For me a good night out consists of good conversation, great company and brilliant, food & drinks and they were all surpassed.

I can confidently say that The Night Jar will definitely be seeing me again.

Drinks are quite pricey (£40 table deposit & we each paid £30 fro our drinks), but as it was a one off treat, it’s a nice retreat for quite evening with close company, carefully mixed drinks that are not watered down, no drunks and cool interactive music – what more could you want?

Have you heard of The Night Jar? Will you booking a table soon?

An Evening at The Sky Garden

Living in London, I can honestly say I’m never at a loss for things to do, which is why I recently found myself at the Sky Garden!

I’ve heard so much about London’s highest public garden so knew I needed to experience it for myself.

Sitting in the middle of Landan city on Fenchurch street, I automatically assumed it would cost a fortune to enjoy the experience – but it’s actually free…you’re welcome🤗 😏

To get tickets, you do have to book at least 3 weeks in advance (yes 3 bloody weeks 😱), however, the experience is worth the wait. (side note: the tickets give you a maximum of 45 minutes up in the Sky Pod, but there’s no time restrictions once you’re up there)

The sky Garden offers great views of the London skyline, the perfect reason to snap a few hundred pics, an amazing bar and superbly rated restaurant that always seems to be booked up – so try and book it if you have the chance.

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The boyf and I decided to visit the Sky Garden at night, and booked our free tickets for 7:30pm. Our plan was to take pictures of the sun setting but it was a complete #FAIL the sunset at around 6:30pm.

When we first arrived we had to get all the boring stuff out the way, we queued, had our bags checked and searched and then we were allowed in the lift.

The lift took us all the way up to level 36, which really has nothing on the Burj Khalia, but once we got out, we were greeted by an incredible view.

We didn’t know what to do, so we headed straight to the bar. The Sky Pod Bar had a great vibe. At the time we visited the venue was dimly lit but situated in the middle was a beacon of beverages and plants on a bar that couldn’t be missed.

We put in our order – I ordered the Elegant Fizz a fruity concoction of elderflower, pear, lemon and prosecco (£12.50)- because I’m a lady and Earl ordered his usual – Old Mout Passion Fruit and Apple Cider (£5.75).

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The craftsmanship that goes into mixing each drink is simply amazing, I didn’t even get a picture because I was literally hypnotised just looking at the barman in awe.

After sipping on our drinks we decided to explore the ‘garden’ as it was getting very dark, very quickly – que lack of pictures lol.

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To be honest, the garden aspect of the Sky Garden, was disappointing. From the pictures I saw online, it looked like an enclosed yet open greenhouse, however, it wasn’t like that. It seemed like there were just a few pot plants scattered around lol.

That’s maybe a little bit of an exaggeration, but there wasn’t much of any plants.
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As we continued to walk around the garden, we were faced with different beautiful views of the city, and it was truly breath-taking, quite romantic too!

As we made near full circle, we decided to go outside and get a few snaps. It was really the most awkward thing as everyone inside just watches you take selfies while they sip on champagne, but we did manage to get a few good pics, but whenever we go out we never get a good full length picture, so we ended up asking a girl to take a picture hoping for a good one lol -she didn’t do too badly.

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After endless pictures we decided to call it a night.

The Sky Garden wasn’t all that I thought it would be, in terms of the actual garden and forestry, but it was definitely an experience to remember. The different views of London made it an unforgettable experience.

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So, if you’re looking for a date night destination or even a place to drink with your pals this is a great venue to consider, especially as it’s free entry and the drinks are relatively affordable. Hopefully I’ll be visiting again soon!

Have you been to the Sky Garden? Recommend any other great venues?

 

 

 

Life Update & How I De-Stress

Hiya,

It’s been a while, but I’ve got exciting news to share – I’ve got a new job! 🎉💷 

It’s been a long time coming and I’m super excited to start the next chapter in my career, but since finding out, and telling my current employer that I’m leaving the company, plus sorting out my whole big hand-over, it has been nothing short of stressful.

It’s weird how such exciting news can quickly turn into a daunting process 😑 😒

Thoughts like; How the hell am I going to tell my manager? Am I meant to look upset or be more apologetic that I’m moving on to different and better pastures? Should I give up a great opportunity? – kept popping into my head, and I found myself quickly stressed with not a clue of what to do. There really should be a handbook for dummies on the subject.

I’ll be starting my new adventure towards the end of the month, but before I can really enjoy and bask in my excitement I’ve got a mammoth job of creating a ton of content before I leave, and to be totally honest it’s all just too much to deal with.

So, if you’re like me and are transitioning into new waters, here’s my tips on how to deal with stress at work…

Plenty of breaks. This point has been said a bazillion times, but it’s totally true, and while I’ve got even more work to do, I’ve found myself stepping away from my desk a little bit more, to take a stroll, make a coffee, and just talk to people. As I stare at computer screen for most of the day, it helps me to take a break from the harsh computer light and take my mind off of my ever growing work load.

Drink lots of Water. Water refreshes and hydrates and to be totally honest with you a nice cold glass of water is calming. It keeps me alert and when I’m rushed off my feet. It’s crazy what a simple glass of water can do. 

Make Music Work. When I arrive at work the first thing I do is put on 1xtra in my browser and plug in my head phones. It helps me disconnect, focus and helps me relax as I’m listening to music I love. Plus, it means I’m not distracted by stupid office politics and it means people don’t disturb you unless it’s absolutely necessary.

Side note: Do you have any albums you’re loving atm? Solange’s new album ‘A Seat At The Table’ and Wretch 32 ‘Growing Over Life’ have been on replay!

A Lovely Bubble Bath. I try and not to take any work home with me – mentally & physically. I also really try not to dwell on things that have really bothered me throughout the day, so once I’ve got home, I like to take some time to myself, grab a cup of tea, chill in a warm bubbly bath using with a Lush bath bomb and turn on an episode of Narcos – the perfect relaxing evening!

 

Enjoy Exercise. I’m sure many of my loyal readers know that I go to the gym, but throughout the month of September I took on a massive challenge of running 26.2 miles for The British Heart Foundation, which meant running at least 2 miles every night. Although it was tough, I’ve tried to continue running a couple times a week as it gives me something to look forward to and actually helps me to de-stress, which I guess is due to my body releasing endorphins. After each session I  actually feel happy and proud of my accomplishments which is a plus!

Reading & Instagram Scrolling. This is a weird de-stressing mechanism I use, but escaping to another place through a book or looking at amazing imagery really helps me chill out and relax. I guess being a serial Instagram scroller has its perks 😂

Do you have any tips on how to handle stress levels? Have you ever had to deal with an awkward resignation? Let me know…

How to Travel the World While Working Full Time

If you follow me on any other social media platforms you’ll know that I’ve been suffering with some serious wanderlust. Like why can’t my full time job not be blogging, travelling and blogging about my travels?

I just know that I’m not meant to work (don’t we all lol) which is why I thought it’s about time I do a post on how to travel when you work full time, because somehow, I manage to.

I consider myself pretty lucky to have been able to travel to two beautiful destinations (Thailand & Dubai)  already this year and hopefully (god-willing) I’ll have another trip sorted before Christmas, but, I have to say, I haven’t spent my work holiday allowance wisely this year, and I know I’m not alone.

What I do know is that wanting to travel while holding down a full time job is definitely possible, although very inconvenient.

So, although I haven’t followed these rules as strictly as I’d have liked to this year due to my personal life, here’s a few tips for those of you who want to make the most out of your holiday and travel the world, one destination at a time, while also keeping a full time job…

Use Bank Holidays & Weekends to your advantage. This has to be the golden rule. If you haven’t tried this trick, where have you been?! To get more days off for less, it’s smart to plan your travels around major UK holidays, Bank Holidays and weekends. For example a great month to try this is May as we get two bank holidays plus weekends!

Prioritise, Prioritise, Prioritise. Once you’ve booked your holiday, it’s easy to get carried with how many days you need after to ‘recover’ from jet lag. I am so guilty of this, but it’s really so unnecessary, especially if you’ve only taken a trip Barcelona where there’s only like 1 hour time difference. To save days it may be worth taking a half day. This really comes in handy when your days start to run low. Plus, it means of you have a weekend getaway planned with an evening flight, you can leave a little earlier on a Friday, just bring your suitcase to the office! If you’re lucky enough to have an amazing manager, they may even let you off officially taking a half day which means you can save it for another time!

Weekend Getaways. Never under estimate the power of the weekend getaway. For the longest time I’ve slept on trips around the UK, and I really don’t know why as there are plenty of beautiful places that you would never believe are a couple hours away from your doorstep. Brighton, Cornwall, Devon, Scotland… and of course the Lake District are now on my ‘to-do’ list. Meaning I can travel more without having to spend ‘holiday’ on well needed weekend breaks – a great way to becoming well-travelled.

Work overtime. If you’re unfortunate enough to work full time with very limited holiday, maybe having a word with your manager or HR officer will allow you to get a few extra days holiday, by working overtime. It’s a great way to accumulate extra days and you’ll be getting paid that little bit extra which can only mean one think = more holidays!

Be Kind to your colleagues. This doesn’t happen in every company, but it’s common that department members who are not allowed to go on holiday at the same time as each other.  If you’re lucky enough to have a cool relationship with your fellow colleague who wants to take the same time off as you do, it wouldn’t harm asking if they could maybe rearrange their time off, it’s all about negotiation. After all, if you don’t ask, you don’t get.

So, these are a few tips that have helped me travel when I desire, do you have any tips/tricks?

 

 

Date Night at Mai Thai

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I’m not even gonna lie, it’s been a while since me and the babes had ‘date night’.

Sure we like to chill at home, put on a movie, Netflix, order in pizza, but in terms of going out, it really hasn’t been at the top of our agenda as both of our schedules have been busy and at the end of a long day at work, we both just want to chill.

Recently, I’ve been feeling a bit stagnant. Work, my blog, my next steps in my career – nothing seems to be going the way I want, so, I thought it would be a good idea to spend some quality time together, by ourselves, outside the house and just eat and talk.

Plus as it was just payday, we thought we deserved a little treat.

My boyfriend lives a few minutes away from Wimbledon, so we headed down there. It really is a good spot for finding nice spots, I swear there’s always something new when we go.

We actually planned to go Franco Manca but EVERY time we plan to go there’s always a bloody long line outside, like, is this just me?

Anyway, we ended up finding a small Thai place called Mai Thai, which is kinda ironic as on the same day I uploaded a throwback picture to Instagram, of me drinking a cocktail on Patong Beach  wishing someone, anyone, could just #takemeback

As soon as we entered Mai Thai it felt like we were back in Thailand, the decor was so oriental from the lamps, to the wooden furniture and even the waiter staff who greeted us in Thai – it was so cool because we knew how to greet them back!

The food was all kinds of yummy. and the price was even better  as we paid  £38 for everything, although we knew that we could have eaten the same thing in Thailand for about £10 but hey ho, it’s all about gaining new experiences and living in the moment right.

We ordered fishcakes and Prawn Tempura for starters, I had egg fried rice with prawn and cashew stir fry and Earl had Thai noodle couple with Pork. The food was nothing but amazing and so, so filling too!

I was really hoping for a Mai Thai cocktail but, unfortunately they don’t sell any, and I really didn’t want to chance it on a horrible rose so I stuck to lemonade and Earl had a Lemon Iced tea which had a cinnamon kick.

We had a good night, the food was so authentic, and I had great company, so I’ll definitely remember Mai Thai whenever I feel like escaping to Thailand again!

We’re on the hunt for some new places to visit in London, so if you have any bars, clubs, cafes etc in mind, send them over 🙂

See you on my next one x

 

23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years

It’s been so, so, soooo long since I last blogged – it’s September already and there’s only 16 weeks until christmas (how crazy is that!)

Although I’ve been away for the majority of August, there has been good reason for it – It was my birthday month and boy did I enjoyyyy… I was insanely spoilt so i’ll be sure to share soon.

But, more recently I’ve been in reflective mood, enjoying the people around me, and the experiences/ lifestyle I’ve been fortunate enough to have, which is why I think actually noting down 23 life lessons – one for every year I’ve been alive – will help me remember what’s actually important in life, and perhaps help younger females out there that come across this post somehow.

23 things I’ve learned in 23 years (in no particular order):

  1. Failure is necessary. I think everyone says this, but no one knows why failure is actually necessary. When I was younger, I was quiet academic, always on the straight and narrow and never really felt any failure or rejection until I finished uni. I searched for nearly a year with many #FAILS in the process but it was so necessary because it made me work harder and really appreciate what I did get.
  2. Scrutiny is necessary. Just like failure, you need to experience scrutiny as well as constrictive criticism to move forward and better yourself.
  3. Learn to live below your means. This point has never been more relevant in my life, especially when things like buying my own house and getting a better car become more of a priority, it’s never been more important to save, even if it’s just a little every month, in order for me invest in things that matter in the grand scheme of things.
  4. Buy experiences, not things. When you work and you can afford to buy things yourself, you soon realise, experiencing things and travelling takes precedent over owning the latest pair of trainers. After all memories last a lifetime.
  5. Avoid trends. As far as I’m concerned trends are a waste of time and money. I have learned to invest in things that I genuinely like.
  6. Not everyone will be there for you. When you go through real tests in your life you realise who’s actually there for you, and who makes time to check up on you. Sometimes it’s a harsh but necessary wake up call on who you need to cut #CutIt
  7. Keep your head up. As a black female, especially over the last year with all the madness happening throughout the world, I’ve learned how important it is to keep my shoulders back and head up, no matter if I’ve got an unusual hairstyle, rocking an au natural face or weird ensemble.
  8. Do what you want. Life is way to short. Don’t worry what other people will think, as long as you’re safe and responsible, live life and do what you want #YOLO (what happened to that yolo)
  9. Speak up! Never shy away from voicing what you actually believe in, no matter how daunting – the feeling of keeping quiet is more disappointing when you look back.
  10. Never accept bad treatment.
  11. Love yourself.
  12. Consistency is key. I think I’ve mentioned this in a previous post before, but being consistent will help you get to where you want to be quicker. Whether it’s in blogging or at the gym – keep at it.
  13. Be a ‘Goal Digger’ – If you been on my insta, I recently posted this quote with a somewhat motivational message. Don’t rely on anyone else to gain success, be a goal digger and get’cho goals!
  14. You are a queen. #MelaninGoddess
  15. Hustle Hard. No one will hand you what you think you deserve, so hustle… HARD!
  16. You can always rely on family. I know this may not be completely true for everyone as every family is different, but I’m sure everyone has at least one person that’s so close they’re practically family whom you can rely on. Having a ride or die is the best.
  17. The world is not fair. Point blank, but what are you doing to make it better?
  18. Look after your relationships. Whether romantic, family or a friendship, look after the relationships that are important to you. Relationships are so fragile and it’s so common that if you get into a romantic relationship, your friendships can take a back seat, but it really doesn’t have to be either or – just be better at time management and care about those close to you.
  19. Parents are always right. A lot of mistakes I’ve made could have all been avoided if only I had listened to my parents. They can be annoying at times, but they are usually right – parent’s intuition and experience is a crazy thing.
  20. Live in the moment. (see no.8)
  21. Keep your circle tight. Not everyone is your friend. There have been so many people that I thought were for me, only to find them bitch about me, take ideas and pass them as their own and everything else, so keep your circle tight.
  22. Keep moving forward. Never become stagnant, no matter how hard life gets, as long as you’re still breathing (Have you seen the Revenant?) you can keep going.
  23. Life’s too short to be unhappy. Stuck in a dead end job? Have a lifelong dream of working for yourself? Want to travel the world? Whatever it is that you think will truly make you happy – do everything in your power to achieve it, even when fear tries to hold you back. You don’t want to look back and regret staying put.

So, there are my pearls of wisdom, hope you enjoyed and make sure to stay tuned for my next post all about my trip to Dubai!

 

Advice for my Undergrad Self

Hey guys!

It’s a new week and I’m back with a slightly different post.

With exam results day nearing in the UK for high school and college students, and many of my close friends having graduated- it got me thinking back to when I was going through it all myself.

I wanted do a post about the most important purchases and advice for prospective undergrads. I was inspired by Casper, a company that makes cool memory foam mattresses, and while I have not had to buy a new mattress, I thought this would be a fun post, as well as a great chance to reflect, so here goes…

Top Purchases

From a young age, I was always excited to move out my parents house and start living for myself – sometimes I really have to ask myself why I was so excited to grow up so quickly smh. With this is mind, I decided to pick the furthest university I could and moved to Lincolnshire *yikes*

I was so ecstatic to have a place of my own (more like a room of my own), and dreamt of doing up my room and all that stuff, but when I actually arrived in my dorm, it was reminiscent of a prison cell (bare in mind I’ve never been to prison lol).

Looking back I would get these things for myself;
-Pillows, loads of pillows! They can transform a dreary room into a homely haven in an instant.
– Nice soft bedsheets. As they say there’s nothing more satisfying then going to bed after a hard day at uni in fresh sheets
– A rug. It’s amazing what a nice rug can do for a room
– Posters/Pictures. Banish homesickness with familiarity, seeing friendly faces, despite being miles away always helps.
– Plants! A nice way to breathe life into a small room
– Fairy Lights.
– Plates, cups and mugs. For all those cheap student meals!
– Full length mirror. For all those #OOTD selfies for Instagram

These little things really made a difference to my room, and while it may not seem like a lot, they can make your room feel like a home away from home – especially if you live in dorms! It’s horrible when your housemates destroy the kitchen, but it’s nice to know that you can always escape to a clean room.

Also, once you’ve finished, you can always take these back home with you and save for when you’re ready to move into your very own apartment!

Things I’ve Learned

After spending 3 years studying in Lincoln, I learned a few things…

– It’s OK to be yourself. As much as you may want to fit in with the cool kids in the dorm, authenticity, never goes out of style. You’ll thank yourself  for remaining true to yourself later in life.
– Work hard, party harder. As much as I used to pretend that I was doing the ‘right’ thing and studying my socks off, university is a social playing ground, so play the field, just remember to pass your modules.
– Just go for it! You’re independent.
– Your housemates will get on your nerves but you WILL look back and class your university years as the ‘good old days’
– When graduation day comes, you’ll realise it was ALL worth it

Life Advice

Once you’ve graduated from university, you’d have learnt a lot of things you’ll carry with you forever…

– Experience is everything. After graduation, you’re officially a graduate and you’ll likely be looking for a job. Hopefully throughout university, you’d have completed placements and internships. The more experience you get in education, the more likely you’ll land your ‘dream’ job
– No one will hand you anything. Being proactive is everything. If you’ve got a passion you want to turn into a career, do everything in your power to make it happen yourself.
– Stay on track. Nothing worth having comes easy. It’s all about time and pressure (peep the shawshank reference lol) so keep doing you boo.

Do you have any undergraduate advice for yourself or others?