Palmer’s New Coconut Oil Bodycare Range Review

I’ve used Palmer’s products since…forever. I have so many fond childhood memories and to be honest with you my nostalgia is always accompanied by the sweet and distinctive reminiscent smell of Palmer’s original body lotion, so, when I was offered the chance to give their new Coconut Oil body care range a try, I couldn’t refuse.

Now, I must admit, I’m not entirely new to this range as I’ve been using the coconut hair care range for a few months and I actually can’t fault it. It’s so hard to find hair care products that leave my dreadlocks feeling squeaky clean, and smelling great without having some sort of weird residue, so do try the range out if you come across it – but anyway that’s a review, for another time.

Coconut Oil works wonder for skin (and hair), so Palmer’s is definitely on to something with this range, but it’s also infused with one of my favourite oils – Mono Oil – great for hydrating, as well as Almond Oil – which is known for it’s soothing properties, perfect for treating any skin type especially as we are subject to this ridiculous weather.

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Before using this range, I’d been committing a multitude of sins by using Vaseline everywhere – not a good look when you want to look well moisturised but end up looking like a grease ball. So, when I introduced Palmer’s new range into my routine, I was impressed to say the least.

The first product I tried was the Coconut Oil Body Cream. The whole range smells divine but I found that this pot of thick creamy goodness had the most intense scent – so much so, that would often go without wearing any perfume.

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I found the coconut oil body cream super moisturising and luxuriously creamy, however, I did notice that I really had to massage in the cream otherwise it left a grey cast on my skin.

As a result I moved on to the body oil. I normally hate using oil but the packaging really drew me to use it, I could just imagine spraying the oil on and looking like I’d just stepped off a beach… and to be honest, I did (without the tan). The oil gave me such a nice dewy glow, without feeling or looking oily. The coconut scent is very subtle too so using this wasn’t overwhelming at all. Once I sort out my next getaway this will definitely be packed too!

 

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On days where I felt I needed a bit more moisture, I added a ‘top coat’ of moisture using Palmer’s Coconut Oil Body Lotion. This was actually my favourite product in the range because of the formula and consistency. It’s a great in-between to the other two products in the body care range. The smell is amazing, and because of it’s light consistency it was easy to work with, especially when getting ready in a rush before work, which is a plus,

Overall I loved using this range, and I’m not at all surprised considering how much I loved using the hair care range. I loved the formula, especially as I felt I could work with the amount of moisture I could apply to my skin without looking or feeling ridiculously shiny or oily. Palmer’s have impressed me again!

Will you be trying Palmer’s New Coconut Oil Bodycare range? If so, let me know your thoughts! 

 

*this post contains PR samples however all views and opinions are my own.

Double Tap That: Five To Follow

Hey ya’ll,

I can’t lie, but right now I am loving Instagram, it’s my favourite app to scroll through, which is probably why I’ve been neglecting this blog🙈. Only God know how many times I scroll through Instagram a day, but I just can’t resist exploring amazing images and finding new people to follow.

Now I know there’s been a lot of controversy about Instas ever-changing and very annoying algorithms, like-bots, spam comments and all that malarkey, but let’s face it, we all love to double-tap that…

With Instagram being a MainStage for Influencers and bloggers to become recognised or as we all like to say – Instafamous, I’ve got more than a few favourites that I’d like to share, so let me show some love to…

IslandBoiPhotography

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The beauty of women is perfectly captured when Joey is behind the camera. His photos are magnetic, and his subjects are not only glamorous but real. Follow him on a journey to unlocking true beauty, and explore the rich velvety texture of the many shades of melanin. I literally cannot get enough of this guys images so, spam his comments so I can get a photo shoot with this guy PLEASE!

In My Sunday Best

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It’s undeniable that Sade has a way with the camera. Perfectly portraying her love affair with vintage fashion her photos are infused with a nostalgic warm twist. I love that we get to see Sade’s confident and elegantly cool personality relayed through the lense too. With her good sense of fashion and great coffee spots what more could you want from life?

Asiyami Gold

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If you have holiday blues, look away NOW.  Asiyami captures awe-inspiring images from her travels all over the world. Using natural backdrops, vibrant colours, colourful food and beautiful subjects she’s is dubbed as a visual storyteller. This girl is living life, all while looking like a melinated supermodel and I love double-tapping whenever she uploads.

ChanelCocoBrown

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I’m back on my 3-4 times a week gym grind and as you may imagine, it’s way too easy to fall off, especially with all these food snaps. Nevertheless, I love searching hashtags like #fitness to keep me on the straight and narrow to achieving my body goals, but one person I always look to is Chanel. She is all types of body goals and I love that she takes us on her fitness journey that she has perfectly made her lifestyle, she’s the ultimate motivation for me, plus I love her clean and feminine feed.

TheSlumFlower

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My girl Chidi is killing it! She oozes beauty and fearlessness and on the few occasions I met her she has been a positive energy that I can’t get enough of. Follow this beaut for encouraging hella funny quotes, fire selfies and the odd travel post. Love her.

I follow way too many creative Instgram pages to pay homage to, but these are the feeds are just a few that I’ve just kept on coming back to. Leave comment and let me know who you’ve been loving on Insta, so I can give them a nosy, also feel free to give me a follow x

 

A Curvy Girl’s Dream: The Perfect Pair of Jeans

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Anyone who knows me, knows that I practically live in jeans.

Work or play, give me a comfy pair of jeans with enough stretch and I’m good to go.

Having wide hips has always been the bane of my life, especially when shopping, which is why I was pleasantly surprised to have found these Topshop Lace Up Jamie Jeans (Jamie jeans never disappoint) that ticked all the right boxes.

To this day,  I remember the gruelling search for school uniform trousers – a ‘simple’ task that always ended in tears. Since, shopping has gotten a bit easier, but it remains true that searching for comfy jeans is always a bit of a ball ache. Believe me when I say, I’ve shopped in every reputable jean shop, known to man; Levi’s, American Eagle, G-star, Asos (the list goes on)- to no avail of finding the ‘perfect pair’.

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For me, the perfect pair of jeans combine a ‘lucky’ combination of three things, that I feel only ‘curvy’ girls can really appreciate and Topshop are doing the most to cater to my needs, so let me tell you what these special ingredients are…

  1. Dimension. This is everything from the colour to the ‘pattern’/worn look of the jean. I’m so over one tone, no detail looking jeans.
  2. Stretch. When I look for jeans I like there to be just enough stretch, so I can feel comfortable without feeling as though my thighs are surrounded by cardboard – you all know what I’m talking about – those really stiff, thick jeans that need to be worn in #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat.
  3. Style. This is probably the hardest of all to find. Is there anything that sets this pair of jeans apart from the rest that I already own? 

 dimension x stretch x style = perfect pair of jeans.

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Jeans really are my wardrobe staple, so when I found these beauties, I immediately fell in love.  I mean, can you blame me, the lace up detail is bang on-trend -tick, I was able to pull them past my thick thighs – tick and I love that they have the potential to be dressed up with heels and a cute crop top or more casual when teamed with trainers – TICK.

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Plus, it’s summer and for me it’s the perfect way to rock jeans without feeling suffocated.

What do you think of these Topshop Lace Up Jeans?

Also, what’s your favourite store to buy jeans? I think I need to branch out, because they day Topshop stop supplying Jamie jeans, i’m screwed!

 

 

Date Night: Blacklock Soho

I’m back with a topic I love to talk about… Food!

Last week ended in celebration and as with any, it involved copious amounts of alcohol and ended with me carrying home a food baby. Oh the joys of gluttony!

As I ‘hinted’ in my last post, I love finding and exploring new spots to eat, in, and around London, and I’ve had Blacklock on my ‘To-Do’ list ever since my colleague recommended it.

Hidden away on a back street in Soho, Blacklock seems inconspicuous, I actually walked past it, before realising what seemed like a closed shop, was actually the entrance to a softly lit basement restaurant.

As soon as we walked down into the basement it seemed like we had entered a modern day Game of Thrones dinning room. Dark wooden tables, wooden beams, candlelight, meat galore on every table, while cool music was playing in the background.

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Quote: Let’s talk about chops baby. Let’s talk about you and meat. 

We had to wait a while before being seated so one tip from me to you, would be to book beforehand, but it’s not a major biggie as the food is well worth the wait.

Once in, we were given amazing service. It was refreshingly nice that the waiters and waitresses remembered our names and gave us a personalised service… it’s so rare these days so extra points for them, because I’ll definitely be returning.

As this was our first time, we were recommended to go ‘All In’. This gave us a chance to taste all the meat they had to offer – think pork, steak and lamb cutlets, along with a tray of entrees and two sides.

One thing I hadn’t noticed until after we left, was that we were never asked how we’d liked our meat cooked. Quite peculiar, but, it definitely worked in their favour as they know how to cook the meat pieces to perfection. It was delicious. Not too rare and bloody, but not at all tough and chewy. To be honest with you, I think Blacklock produced the very best steak I’ve ever had.

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Blacklock All In. Pork chops, Steak, Lamb cutlets all on Flatbread.

As you can see, between two people, we really shouldn’t have been able to finish everything there, but we gave it a good go anyway.

Everything was was cooked amazingly. The simple flavours blended well too. I was stuffed. But, not stuffed enough lol.

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Sides: Courgettes with Stilton Cheese and Sweet Potato.

We also opted for dessert – their freshly baked homemade cheesecake, topped with fresh fruit. A perfect palette cleanser, as it wasn’t sweet at all but had a pop of flavour from the fruit.

Sadly, I didn’t snap very much at all while there, but hopefully that’s a sign of how much I was enjoying the food.

I didn’t think I’d love Blacklock as much as I did, but it was a lovely last minute date-night destination that did not disappoint.

 

If you’re ever in the Soho are and decide to head down to Blacklock, let me know what you think x

P.S. I know there’s a lot of happening in London right now, but that doesn’t mean we should stop living our lives and live in fear of what ‘could’ happen. Live and Love.

#PrayforLondon

How to make the most out of your holiday

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Holiday season is upon us!

All you have to do is take a glance at instagram and whoop there it is… photos galore of beyond-beautiful backdrops, perfect beach bods and ultimate baecation goals.

Whether you’ve sorted an extravagant caribbean getaway or a chic short city break in Europe, there’s a few things that I always consider before finalising my holiday plans that I think can help anyone when wanting to find the best destination as well as planning to make the most out of your holiday.

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1.Research any events happening.
I’m the type of person who is always on the hunt for something new to do in London. And to be honest, this is no different to when I’m going abroad. My top tip to making the most our your holiday is to find events happening in the place you plan to visit around the time you’re going. A music festival, a beach party, a food market – if there’s something you’re interested in, more times than not, places in your chosen destination will have events for you to attend. This is also a great opportunity to get out and explore too… who knows you may even make a few new friends on the way.

2.Discover cool places to eat.
Much like the way I research events, I am religiously on the hunt for new eateries. I pretty much plan my day around food, from what time I think I’ll be hungry to what I’m going to scoff down next, even as I’m finishing the meal in front of me.

I’m lucky enough not to be allergic to anything *touch wood* which gives me the freedom to enjoy exploring new flavours and foods, so, one of my favourite pastimes is to look up restaurants (non chains) to see where I can eat next. Pinterest and Instagram (trust me, utilise these platforms) are my favourite tools for this as you get to see great photos from real life people (Tripadvisor doesn’t hurt either!).

This goes hand-in-hand with my first point too. If you’ve found an event to attend, finding a nice spot to brunch it up, or have a romantic evening meal at, nicely finishes off a day out, so keep you eyes out for double-tap worthy food.

3.Don’t Rely on Reviews.
One valuable piece of advice I’d pass on is to not solely rely on reviews. Now, I’m not saying to dismiss reviews completely, but, weigh out your options. Consider price, star ratings and ‘traveller photos’ and carefully read what you’ll get for your money. Whether for a restaurant or hotel, always remember you may like things that some people may not, so relax and look forward to making up your own mind and making your own memories.

After all every experience is a lesson learned.

4.Make a Loose Itinerary.
I love to be organised and everything, but after one holiday to Barcelona, where I had a solid plan for every day of our trip, I think it’s worth remembering, a holiday, is for exploring a new culture and way of life, BUT, it’s also a gateway to utter relaxation (in my world anyway). So, with that being said, I would make a loose plan of pre-booked trips and activities and keep in mind excursions that you’d like to go on, so you have the option to book it while you’re there. The last thing you want to do waste money.

5.Enjoy every day as it comes.
Last but not least, enjoy your time away. Many a time, we put all our energy into planning, that when we get there we’ve already lived out our holiday online. Take the day as it comes and try to enjoy every minute of it.

Do you have any tips, to ensure you make the most out of your holiday, I’d love to know?

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My Caribbean Adventure: 2 Weeks in Jamaica

Jamaica seems like a very distant memory right now, and all I keep thinking about is how much I was enjoying life 😒💚❤️️💛.

My two week adventure in Kingston was definitely one to remember. Split into two parts, I was able to see the real Jamaica and experience its unforgettable people and culture, as well the perfectly-packaged tourist ready version of the island.

Week 1

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Soaking up the sun, and drinking WATA!

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As mentioned in my previous blog, this was my first trip to Jamaica. Kingston is where my grandma grew up, where my dad visited when he was younger, so I was more than excited to experience what they had always talked about.

‘Uppa country’ as locals like to say, is where I called home for the first seven days. (Funnily enough when I got back to the UK I learned that my grandma actually grew up on the same road as where I was staying. Coincedence much?!) Beautiful views, windy country roads, fresh food, is all what consumed my time.

No internet, no TV, just living simply. To some this may sound like hell, but in all honesty it was a relief. Detoxifying even. This is what going away is all about (for me anyway) and it was lovely not to have any distractions and to simply chat, listen, learn and enjoy life.

The week now seems like a blur, I guess the saying ‘time flies when you’re having fun’ is true. The cool late nights playing dominoes or dancing merged into the days where I sat in the sun drinking bag juice. I felt like this is what life is meant to be like 100% of the time – no time keeping, just taking the time to have fun and be.

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After enjoying a week with family, it was time to move to our airbnb.

Now, can I just take a moment to praise how convenient and affordable airbnb is in Jamaica. We found some beautiful gems to rent, but, settled for an apartment opposite the Bob Marley museum. Super convenient, modern and it even had a pool which we never actually used, but it was nice to have the option, especially as we were hours away from any natural beach.

Being in Jamaica was a gave me nothing short of a whirlwind of emotions, but ultimately it taught me to be confident… unapologetically, inside and out. It’s a mantra that many of us talk about and try to omit, but honestly speaking I didn’t feel conscious about myself, about my weight, about my race and it was lovely to just live life. Maybe this was down I to me being in my natural habitat, being comfortable in my surroundings, and in my skin, it was a feeling that I surely will never forget.

 

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We most definitely caught the beach bug and headed even further to Ocho Rios – Turtle Tower beach the day after too.

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Turtle Tower Beach
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Turtle Tower Beach
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What does this look like to you? #PumPum Rock
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Views from Portland

 

 

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Hope you enjoyed… I know I did!

Are you off anywhere special in the coming months?

Why Kingston, Jamaica Should Be Your Next Holiday Destination

Hey all,

I’ve been back in the UK for just over a week and I am wanderlusting HARD!

From the title of this blog, you’ve probably guessed where I’ve just come back from.

Yes… I’ve been living carefree, soaking up all the vitamin D the caribbean has to offer, sipping on Red Stripe Lemon, and exploring the bustling capital city of Jamaica, Kingston.

The Caribbean is somewhere that I’ve always gravitated towards when looking for my next holiday destination. It’s hot, it’s instagrammable, and there’s so much culture to explore.

Having travelled to Barbados on multiple occasions, I thought it was about time I explored my Jamaican heritage. And seeing as both mine and my boyfriends families are from Kingston, it was only right that this would be our home for 2 weeks.

My heart fell for Kingston instantly. The vibrancy of the city set against the mountain views were absolutely superb, so, if you’re planning a trip to the caribbean or more specifically Jamaica, it’s only right I put Kingston on your radar.

1. The Food

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Pictured: Lobster, Bammi, Plantain, Fried Dumplings

Jamaicans know how to throw down… anywhere! Whether you’re strolling through Kingston passing local food businesses with home made wood ovens, or sat down in a nice restaurant you’re always seconds aways from tasty, fresh food. There’s something for everyone. If you’re after something traditional like ackee & saltfish, lobster and bammi, callaloo and breadfruit or even something more western, like a burger, Kingston has got an array of eateries. Plus, Vegan options are standard!

2. The People

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Locals you’ll find in Kingston

No Problem is Jamaica’s national slogan, and it’s perfectly fitting. The people are loud, confident, outgoing, funny, charismatic and will help you out with no problem. Oh, and somehow, everyone seems to be able to sing.

3. The Culture

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Beautiful paintings inside the Bob Marley museum grounds

With Marcus Garvey, Bob Marley and Usain Bolt national heroes, there is plenty to be explored when it comes to the history and culture of Jamaica.

A Jamaican folktale I came across was that the first Jamaican Bobsledding team actually got the idea to compete as bobsledders in the Olympics after racing around on carts used to transport food in downtown Kingston fresh food market. True or not, it’s quite interesting.

4. The Music (…and the parties!)

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Amazing artist: IndieMeName

As I said before, everyone on the island seems to have a record label worthy voice. Is it any wonder, Jamaica was home to the musical legend that was Bob Marley. The island thrives off of good music and good vibes. From the parties, to concerts, it’s evident that Jamaicans have music flowing through their veins.

At one point during our stay we were at a street party that started at about 5pm and ended at 7am the next morning. Music blasted all night with No Problem. can you imagine the ruckus from neighbours if that happened in the UK?!

5. The Views

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Compared to Barbados, Jamaica is a very mountainous island, so much so, that anywhere  you find yourself in Kingston, there’ll be a beautiful backdrop of a mountains and palm trees to admire. I mean do you need anything else?

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I have so many unforgettable memories from Jamaica that there are so many more beautiful reasons on why you should visit Kingston. Keep your eyes peeled on my next post all about the places you should visit (beaches included)!

Have you/ would you ever visit Kingston?

11 thought-provoking quotes from Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Adichie

It feels that I haven’t had a chance to sit down and actually focus on anything blog related in a lifetime.

I’ve missed this feeling. And I only have my annoying iPhone to thank, there’s always a problem with it. Luckily I have my upgrade to look forward to next month, so I may move on to something else, but probably not as I’m a sucker for punishment.

Anyway, I digress. Last week I had the pleasure of visiting the Southbank Centre for their annual Women of the World Festival (check it out) where one of my all time favourite authors – Chimamanda Adichie – hosted a talk all about feminism.

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First of all, I have to thank Stylist magazine, as I had no idea that this festival even existed until it was printed in their magazine. As soon as I saw that the talented and sometimes controversial Chimamanda was talking there, I booked my tickets immediately as I’ve literally dreamt of having the chance to sit down and quiz her about her books, since I finished Half of a Yellow Sun, and although this was hardly a one on one, the chance to see her in real life was good enough for me lol.

Ever since reading a few of her books, I have been a die-hard fan of Chimamanda, I mean she’s even featured on Beyonce’s tune – if you haven’t heard of her, what have you been doing?!

Two weeks ago she released a short essay called; Dear Ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestionscheck my insta – in response to a friend who asked her how to raise a feminist daughter, which she also discussed in depth on stage and let me tell you the whole experience was life!

I’ve never really liked labelling myself as a feminist, as I feel it has soooo many negative connotations, and in my opinion, you either agree with the equality between men and women or you don’t, but Chimamanda discussed many great points, during her talk and in her book, that after listening and reading I proudly say ‘I’m a feminist’.

She shares so many suggestions, some of which really did have me chuckle, so I thought   I’d share my favourite quotes with you, although I do recommend that you read for yourself as it’s such a quick, humorous and thought-provoking read:

  • Be a full person
  • Never apologise for working. You love what you do, and loving what you do can be a great gift.
  • ‘Because you’re a girl’ is never a reason for anything. Ever.
  • The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina.
  • Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not.
  • Reject likeability.
  • We have a world full of women who are unable to exhale fully because they have for so long been conditioned to fold themselves into shapes to make themselves likeable.
  • Never treat marriage as an achievement.
  • Kindness matters… but teach her that her kindness should never be taken for granted.
  • To love is not only to give but to take.
  • If you criticise X in women but do not criticise X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women

There are so many quick-fire quotes from this book, that I’ll always have in mind, especially in the fight of feminism. Have you pocketed any quotes from this book?

Do you label yourself a a feminist? Have you ever read any of Chimamanda’s other books, if so, which is your favourite?

 

5 Reasons Why I HATE Twitter Chats

After reaching my one year milestone on this blog a couple of weeks ago, I stupidly promised myself to join at least 2 twitter chats a week.

Let’s just all laugh together 😂

My advances to become a somewhat ‘better blogger’ wasn’t actually unachievable, but I’ve come to the realisation that I actually hate twitter chats (well, most of them anyway).

When I first started blogging Twitter chats were the bomb.com!

I would e-meet other bloggers, interact and find new blogs, as well as discover blogging events which definitely helped me network and ultimately turn my blog into what it is today, BUT, after being back on the twitter chats for just over a week, I’ve realised that my goal to join 2 twitter chats a week may have been a bit of a reach.

Let me tell you why…

  1. No shade, but there’s only so many times a year, never mind a week, where I can discuss my favourite disney movie. I get it, we all love disney and it’s a great past-time to re-live our awesome 90’s childhood, but I’m a grown ass 20 something year old woman who’s got shit going on. Let’s get real.
  2. The choice of topics is an issue. Blogging is so diverse – from the people to the subjects. I mean people blog about any and everything, so why do we always end up discussing the same topics and throwing around the same answers and buzz words? It’s like we know what others want to hear, what makes us sound good and what sounds a the right level of controversial. Let’s get real.
  3. I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t been an active part of the twitter chat community for ages, but is it me or is everyone besties? Everyone has something witty to say, a sure-fire comeback. I can’t lie, it makes the chats fun and very interactive, but it just makes me wonder is it all real? Are you really as animated as that sassy GIF you just tweeted or are you sitting in bed with a straight face, going back and forth, just like me? Plus, we have the whole follow/unfollow debacle which just grinds my gears. Let’s get real.
  4. Everything moves so bloody quickly. I know, I know. I feel as though my inner-granny is taking over. Even as I type this I’m imagining an older version of myself walking across the TL with my zimmerframe, but I would love if Twitter slowed down, even by a milli-second. Like, I’m sure I’m the only person who answers a question forgetting to use the chat hashtag? 😪
  5. I never have enough time to dedicate a whole blessed hour to a twitter chat.

Don’t get me wrong guys, I do enjoy a few chats and I get that Twitter chats take a lot to run and host every week, but for me a lot of it is cliche, so… I’m revoking my earlier promise and will only be joining chats when I’m genuinely interested in, and not just because I said I would 😝.

We’re probably all as guilty as each other when it comes to these points (or nah), but maybe it’s time for a change?!

What chats do you enjoy joining and why, do you have any pet peeves when it comes to Twitter chats?

 

OOTD: Confidence

Hey ya’ll,

Today I’m switching it up.

After recently retweeting a thread that really struck a chord with me, I’ve been dwelling on whether to write more posts on subjects that affect me.

screen-shot-2017-02-21-at-21-39-42I was so scared of sharing this thread (pictured above) on my twitter timeline. In fact, I toyed back and forth about whether I should retweet for my followers to see. I didn’t want any of my followers who I actively interact with to feel uncomfortable, but at the same time I just couldn’t stay silent. Twitter is my platform to share whatever I like, and although, I didn’t like this post, I could relate with subject matter.

Most of my posts are about what I do on the weekend, the places I travel and what-not which is great because I genuinely enjoy sharing those aspects of my life, but most of the time my head is swirling with a gazillion things that affect me on a daily basis, and one of those ‘things’ is how I choose wear my confidence as a black woman.

And I use the word ‘choose’ because every way in which I am confident is not always accepted in the society I live in.

Being a black woman living in London is something that I treasure and love about myself. In my home, in front of my friends and family I am Rianne without any limitations, however, in society being black acts as anchor that doesn’t allow me to fully be myself without stereotypes and tags being attached to me and everything I do.

Angry, loud, passive aggressive, ratchet instead of their positive alternatives like passionate, confident, intelligent and honest are labels that get thrown around at black women on a daily basis. A few of these words have even been hurled at me and used to put me down which  of course, over the years have had a detrimental affect on my confidence and means I have to always be socially and consciously aware in situations I’m in.

So, here’s a few ways I choose to wear my confidence, when the world tells me I can’t…

Posture
It’s proven that posture has a direct reflection of how you feel and are perceived. Standing with a straight back and head held high makes all the difference to how I feel. For me it’s totally natural for me to recoil into my posture if I’m not feeling great, or if there’s something society deems as not being something I should be proud or confident about. Whenever I catch myself doing this, I remember to readjust my position to show –  I have a purpose and I am meant to be here.

Hair
If you didn’t know I have dreadlocks, take a look at my posts about it here & here. Although this hair journey is becoming a lot more mainstream as a natural, protective hairstyle for black women, it’s not always understood and still very much not an ‘approved’ hairstyle in many workplaces, but I love how I wear my hair as a way to display my heritage and culture. My hair is very versatile, sometimes, I have it in styles, sometimes I have it out, but I love that it can be a conversation starter, where I can educate anyone who wants to know more.

Attitude
Stereotypically black women can be seen as intimidating and unapproachable. Confidence isn’t just about the exterior and how you appear to seem, but it starts from within. At first glance people may have a pre conceived idea about me I’ve been told I have RBF (resting bitch face), but I actively agree in quote: If you have good thoughts (and a positive attitude) they will shine out of your face…

Inner Thoughts
Occasionally, I recite quotes in my head that reaffirm and boost positivity.

Public Speaking
When I refer to this point I don’t necessarily mean in front of a big crowd. Speaking up in certain situations takes courage and therefore confidence, and the older I get I find myself doing this more and more. There are many examples where I feel I have to do this to set the record straight or give the black perspective and to even break stereotypes by someone who is reinforcing them. (the thing about stereotypes is that  they’re not necessarily untrue, but they don’t tell the full story).

One instance where I had to speak out was when someone voiced that they think Blue Ivy is an ugly baby, that she looks nothing like Beyonce and that North West is much prettier. This may seem like a minor issue but to say a child is ugly is quite pathetic tbh, but then again everyone is entitled to their opinion, however, I had to question why they thought this.

When quizzed they simply said her hair wasn’t nice because it was too ‘frizzy’ and because her features resembled Jay Z. This is true but I had to highlight the fact those qualities are qualities of her blackness and for that to be used against her is not cool.

Ultimately, it shows that from a young age, confidence is something that can be snatched away, but it is our job to reclaim it and make the ways in which we are confident a force to be reckoned with.

The subject of confidence is so much bigger than this one blog post, and there are many other ways in which confidence can be radiated.  Although I am talking about my experience as a black woman, I want to know how you wear your confidence, no matter where you’re from or your background?